Good Sex is Good for You!

"Life without love is like a coconut in which the milk is dried up." Henry David Thoreau
"Good sex....Improves our health and may even contribute to our longevity."
Scientific evidence is accumulating support what many of us have suspected all along: good sex not only adds great enjoyment to our lives, but it also actually improves our health and may even contribute to our longevity.
In a new book called Sexual Healing, Dr. Paul Pearsall, Director of Behavioral Medicine at Detroit's Beaumont Hospital, writes that the joys and pleasures of living life and loving may provide us with something called an "intimacy inoculation" that actually protects us from disease.
Dr. Pearsall, who cites numerous other researchers, concludes, "Growing numbers of physicians now recognize that the health of the human heart depends not only on such factors as genetics, diet, and exercise, but also --to a large extent-- on the social and emotional health of the individual."
Sexual healing is achieved primarily through the daily challenge of maintaining a close, intimate relationship which, when accomplished, leads to balance between our health and healing systems.
Can lack of sexual intimacy create a risk factor for certain diseases? Dr. Pearsall cites research and his own clinical experience ndicating that sexual dissatisfaction seems to be prevalent prior to a heart attack in a high percentage of persons. Conversely, sexual contentment appears related to less severe migraine headaches, fewer and less-severe symptoms of premenstrual syndrome for women, and a reduction in symptoms related to chronic arthritis for both genders.
Although the exact biological mechanisms are not yet identified, many researchers are investigating how our thoughts, feelings, brain, immune system and sexual/genital system interact, influence each other, and affect our health. There may be an actual biological drive toward closeness, intimacy, and being connected to other human beings.
When we experience intimate, mutually caring sexual intimacy, we may experience a measurable change in neurochemicals and hormones that pour through the body and help promote health and healing.
"Hormones that pour through the body help promote health and healing."
Does this mean that to live longer or be more healthy we just need to DO IT more often or better? Of course not! Sex is a much broader concept that genital connecting or having an orgasm. Psychologist and author Gina Ogden, Ph.D. notes in her book, "Women Who Love Sex", that sex has everything to do with openness, connection to and bonding with a partner, feelings about what is happening to us, and memories. For those who love it, sex permeates their lives and is not merely a specialized, time-intensive, physical activity that takes place under the covers--as quickly as possible.
As a result of interviewing many women, Dr. Ogden learned that sexual desire, or lust, was produced by much more than physical stimulation. For women, according to Dr.Ogden, it has more to do with feelings of connectedness in their relationships: "Heart to heart, soul to soul, even mind to mind."
"For women, it has to do with feelings of connectedness in their relationships."
When discussing sexual connecting, Dr. Ogden's interviewees spoke of a FLOWING CONTINUUM OF PLEASURE, ORGASM, AND ECSTASY, rather than a one-time experience. They also described peak sexual experiences as coming from stimulation all over their bodies--not just from their genitals--including fingers, toes, hips, lips, neck, and earlobes.
Obviously, arousal and satisfaction evolve not only from receiving sexual energy, but also from the joy of stimulating one's partner. Sex, then, is a commitment of give and take.
Finally, the women Dr. Ogden studied have their own concepts of safe sex, essential to experiencing sexual pleasure and ecstasy. This kind of safe sex does NOT relate to preventing STDs or pregnancy; it relates, instead, to emotional and spiritual safety. Such safety is CRUCIAL for sexual closeness. Most of the women insisted that warm, loving connections with themselves and with their partners were essential to and inseparable from the experience of sexual ecstasy.
When people feel deeply close while merely holding hands, they are having sex. When people display caring for each other through hugs, caresses, and kissing, they are also having sex. When connecting people in a crowded room wink at each other in their own secret way, they are communicating sex to each other; such non-contact sex can be excitedly arousing and emotionally fulfilling. And, of course, during sexual union when the sky seems to open so a lightning bolt can strike the couple--while fireworks ignite and the earth stops spinning-- this is sex, too.
But wait. Do men also need this almost spiritual connection to enjoy sex and achieve good health? Well, yes and no. Men need sex and men need emotional connection, but many men don't necessarily need to put the two together!
According to Dr. Bernie Zilbergelt, who wrote The New Male Sexuality, sex for women is intertwined with personal connection. For some men , sex is unto itself--an act to be engaged in with or without love, with or without commitment, with or without connection.
Presently, younger boys are being socialized in a more enlightened manner; consequently, male attitudes toward sexual union are changing. But,unfortunately, the socialization of many men born in or before the 60's provided very little information of value to the formation and maintenance of intimate relationships. These men were taught, as youths, that males showed love by doing, not by talking or "connecting" with girls.
"Fortunately, anyone can...restore closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow."
Older men were usually also socialized to be strong and self-reliant, which usually means one doesn't easily talk about or admit personal problems. Many such men do not acknowledge worries and fears to their partners; they simply try to handle everything on their own.
A consequence of such reticence is (1) lack of intimacy in the relationship, with the wife feeling "left out" of her husband's life; and (2) men often don't get what they need because they don't know how to ask for it, so they feel distanced and frustrated when they really want closeness and intimacy as much as their partner does.
Sex under these conditions creates distance in the relationship or creates sexual dysfunction which drives an even deeper wedge into the relationship. This is especially true if a man is married to a woman must be wanted by her husband to have her sexuality validated.
Consequently, sex routinely becomes mechanical, unfeeling, and unfulfilling. Fortunately, anyone can break this vicious cycle and restore closeness, intimacy, and sexual flow in the relationship.

The best vibrators to please a woman

Vibrators have become the best friends of women who are alone or who find their sexual urges to be much higher than their partner can satisfy. Women who love enjoying multiple orgasms find a vibrator an indispensible toy. The fun part is that they can use the vibrator alone or with their partners.
Vibrators can arouse women who pass through various sexual stages before reaching orgasm. When a woman uses a vibrator, it makes her every moment comparable to love play, which helps in attaining full sexual arousal and satisfaction. With the new age vibrators that come with so many different features, women have been able to explore areas of their sexuality which were hitherto unknown even to them.
Lot of women are unable to reach orgasm even after having sexual intercourse with their male partners. There can be many reasons for this unsatisfactory sexual experience. With a vibrator in hand, these women can achieve this sexual climax with ease; after all, who has heard of a vibrator getting tired? Vibrators can go on till the time women reach an orgasm of their liking.
There are many styles and types of vibrators available in the market providing women options to explore their sexual orgasm with vibrator sex. The most prominent vibrators are rabbit vibrators, clit vibrators, Jack rabbit vibrators, adult vibrators, and G-spot vibrators. These different types of vibrators can help make vibrator sex a pleasurable and memorable experience. Read on to know briefly about each of these vibrators.
Rabbit vibrators
This vibrator is named after a rabbit, which is a cute and sweet animal. A rabbit vibrator contains a shaft, beads, pearls, and swivels. These provide internal stimulation. The rabbit like ears of a rabbit vibrator provides external stimulation. Women who use rabbit vibrators experience both internal and external stimulation.
Rabbit vibrators are among the most popular sex toys, which are available in different styles in the market. There are many styles in rabbit vibrators, which ensure immense fun and pleasure for women users. Some of the styles in rabbit vibrators include romping ramping rabbit, hop'n rabbit stroker, double bunny, and rabbitronic rabbit vibrator.
Clit vibrators
Clitoris is the most sensitive of the sexual organs of a woman. If the clitoris of women is stimulated properly, they can easily achieve orgasm. The best sex toy, which ensures proper stimulation of clitoris in women, is clit vibrator.
Clit vibrator is used through vagina and should not be used through anal area. Some of the styles of clit vibrators are hand held clit vibrators and wearable clit vibrators, which can recharge the sex life of any woman.
Some of the hand-held clit vibrators include wiggle wand clit vibrators and octopussy clit vibrators, which have eight legs and resemble an octopus in shape.
Jack rabbit vibrators
Jack rabbit vibrators contain a 7 inch shaft and multi-coloured rotating beads, which help stimulate the innermost parts of the vagina. Women should use Jack rabbit vibrators with water or oil based lubricants for best results.
Women who use Jack rabbit vibrators can expect sexual ecstasy beyond their known boundaries. Jack rabbit vibrators can also be used by couples for enhancing their sexual experience.
Adult vibrators
Adult vibrator is a general term for vibrators, which are used by women above 18 years of age for their sexual gratification. Adult vibrators are not a new thing for women. These were used prescribed by doctors in the past for treating hysteria problems among women. Today adult vibrators have become friends of women who use these sex toys for sexual arousal.
G-spot vibrators
G-spot arousal is considered the height of sexual stimulation in women. If this spot is stimulated during sexual intercourse, a woman achieves orgasm each time. However, in most women, it remains unexplored, as it is very deep in the vagina, where a man's penis finds it difficult to stimulate it. However, use of G-spot vibrators has helped many women achieve sexual orgasm.
G-spot vibrators are available in different shapes and styles which help women explore their G-spot up to its full potential. Some of the shapes include dolphin and jelly G-spot vibrators.
Some women may think that vibrator sex is only for those who are adventurous. It may be an adventure to have vibrator sex. However, it opens up many unexplored parts of vagina of a woman. Vibrator sex with the help of different types of vibrators helps women explore their true sexual potential and revive their sex life.

What Sexual Positions to Use? by Brian Welsch

Women’s magazines are often filled with articles promising sexual positions that will blow your mind and guarantee orgasms. Unfortunately a lot of these positions are complicated and require diagrams for you to follow the somewhat cryptic instructions. How can anyone have fun, let alone have an orgasm, when they are trying their best not to strain their backs in these fancy acrobatic sexual positions.
The truth is that sometimes even tried and tested positions will accomplish what you want, orgasms for the both of you. Remember that everyone is different and what works for some people may not work for you so experiment and decide what you love and what needs to be tossed.
The Jazzed Up Missionary
Think the missionary position is boring? Think again. By tweaking ‘ordinary’ sexual positions a little you can have very intense orgasms. First the woman places a cushion or pillow underneath her butt and while the man is thrusting, the woman brings her legs up as if folding her body in half.
This allows the woman’s G-spot to be stimulated and once she feels like she is about to orgasm she lowers her legs. Once this happens the man lifts his pelvic bone upwards and lines it up with the woman’s clitoris. This little twist on this old position makes it more intense and it’s sure to be met with success.
Slow and Steady
Sometimes the best way to achieve an orgasm is to get into sexual positions that allow great intimacy. A position that requires plenty of thrusting and movement is great sometimes but a relaxing one that allows you to look into your partner’s eyes is a must at times.
For such occasions the woman can lie on her back while the man lies on his side facing the woman. The woman then wraps her legs around the man’s hips and he slowly thrusts into her. These sexual positions can last for hours and can be very satisfying one.
The Reverse Cowgirl
It’s sometimes hard for a woman to achieve orgasm if the sexual positions do not provide enough stimulation to her clitoris. With a woman on top she can better control the pace and stimulate her clitoris if she wants to. Jazz this position up a little, the man lies on his back and the woman gets on top but with her back to her man’s face.
Instead of straddling the man’s hips she closes her legs and places her feet flat between the man’s legs. This increases the intensity of everything and will allow her to stimulate her clitoris if she wants to. The G-spot is also stimulated allowing for a more intense orgasm.